You can be proud of your sexuality and still in the closet for your own safety. Not everyone you know has to know that you’re not straight for you to be a ‘good’ queer/gay. Protecting yourself from homophobes is not ‘contributing to the issue’. Do not come out into a dangerous situation with no support network or without any financial independence. If you think someone might out you, don’t tell them shit.
One of the lowest forms of cruelty is mocking someone based on things they cannot change about themselves. No one can just magically change the shape of their nose, the size of their ears, how tall they are, whether they have skin conditions, the size of their boobs etc.
You don’t need to think everyone is beautiful or attractive but you also don’t need to be a cunt about it either.